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The Bridge We All Need to Cross

Brooklyn Bridge

He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven.
Thomas Fuller
Image Copyright by WyoJones. All rights reserved. Used with permission.

One August I was home alone. Well, mostly alone. I had The Cat. It was because of the cat that I discovered my other (temporary) roomie. And the trail it left.

A slug.

Yes, I had a slug in my living room leaving slime trails on my carpet. In the morning sun, I could see them circling (I presume) looking for some reason to be there. And I think it was stalked by The Cat. Apparently, it wasn’t afraid of the cat, because I had to follow the trail back and find its entry point.

It was not something I enjoyed. I mean, who wants to follow a slime trail anywhere?

I got to thinking about that old, long-gone slime trail today because life can have other slime trails, ones easier to follow to a source, but much harder to get rid of. Last week I talked about choosing peace amidst chaos and some of you commented on Facebook that it is easier said than done.

So true.

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, slime gets mixed into our life. It can come from multiple sources and can be much harder to “clean” out of our minds. Sometimes we bring it on ourselves, either deliberately or accidentally. And cleaning up doesn’t always end the turmoil.

I believe the antidote is similar to last week’s post. We need to make a choice, but I also think there is one more step.

We need to forgive.

We can’t control what others do, but again, we can control what happens inside our own heads.

Holding a grudge is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. 

My sister told me this quote. I don’t know who said and I’ve heard variations of it in a variety of situations.

We forgive – others and ourselves – so we can remove the poison, the slime. Taking this important step frees us from waiting on others for joy and peace to return to our hearts.

I know, I’ve been serious two weeks in a row! What’s up with that? It’s like Life hears you declare something and sets out to test your resolve. Lol Does that ever happen to you? Do you decide something that will carry you forward and then it seems as if all the forces of fate combine to stop you?

Not that I’m important enough for ALL the forces to come after me. Lol

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Perilously yours,


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